Friday, May 4, 2012

J and K are for...

I know I haven't been posting much this month.  We haven't been doing many structured activities lately and the weather has been nice so we've been outside a lot.  Not to mention the dog has chewed up three laptop chargers in about two weeks.  All that means I've also been reading more, so be prepared for the reviews to come!

Anyway, back to blogging through the alphabet.

J is for Job.
Most of the time, when people ask what I do, I get the "Oh, so you don't work?" comment.  I'm sure many of you other stay-at-home/homeschooling parents can relate.  I know how blessed I am to be able to stay home with my children, but I also admire working parents.  I worked full-time with one kid, while pregnant, and with two kids.  I know how hard it is to find the balance between career and parenting.  Sometimes the fact that I no longer have that added pressure makes me feel inadequate.  Like my day should be easier because I don't have to wear heels and handle difficult customers before coming home to "deal with the kids" as I so often heard my coworkers describe it.  I never felt like I had to "deal" with my kids.  I wanted to be home with them, to cuddle with them, and love on them before tucking them into bed.  I'll never understand that.

Then a few weeks ago, an older gentlemen asked  me a question about where I worked.  I told him I don't work, I stay home with with the kids.  His response?  "Oh you work.  I'm sure those boys keep you busy."

I've always known those words to be true, and I shouldn't need validation, but hearing it from someone I hardly know did make me feel better!  I do have a job.  I might not have the "dual" life of working mom anymore, and  I don't regret the decision, but  I do wish certain generations would understand that stay-at-home, work-from-home and homeschooling parents DO work.  Just in a different way.

K is for Kids
I read an article yesterday about two year old children joining Mensa.  While I know there are child geniuses out there and that is all well and good, I can't help but to wonder what will become of these children?  Will they always have that stigma of being a  child genius?  Will they feel pressure to always prove themselves and live up to certain expectations?  Will their parents always push them, or will they let them have a childhood?

Even for the "regular" child, I see them being pushed too hard.  I try so hard to just let my  I do offer them structured activities, but I love to watch them play, use their imagination, create new games and work out problems on their own.  I don't want them to have academic burnout by the time they're ten years old.  I want them to learn, but I want it to be out of curiosity, because they want to learn.  In the process, I want them to enjoy being kids for as long as possible!



  1. Very well said. :) I have to constantly remind myself of this. My oldest loves to learn and doesn't tire of it. Sometimes I find myself getting carried away with what I'm teaching him, and I have to remember to back off and just let him play.

    Just this morning I was thinking that I hadn't read one of your posts in awhile...

  2. my favorite quote about kids is from Albert Einstein:

    "Everybody is a genius. But, if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid."

  3. Loved this! And I totally agree about allowing kids to really be kids, and encouraging that.

  4. Amen! I was a practicing attorney for 6 years before I answered God's call to come home and care for my family full time (a decision I have not regretted for ONE moment!) Dealing with unreasonable clients, nasty attorneys, and unfair judges is a breeze compared to the upbringing of my children. (Not that they are hard, but the job IS!) I am one of the lowest paid, most hard-working women alive. And I am proud. And I know you are too! :)

    1. I understand! I worked in banking before coming home full time, and nothing brings out the nasty in a person more than money. However, I still think dealing with daily life can be more difficult than the worst customers.